Her own woman…

Someone said to me one day that they were sure that what i wanted for my granddaughter, Jazmine, was for her to be her own woman – and able to stand on her own two feet… to be able to “make it on her own”.

My entire being recoiled at these words. And even thought I kind of get what the person was trying to convey, I couldn’t imagine anything further than what I wanted for the grandchild I adore. Or, for that matter, my wondrous sons.

But let’s stick to Jazmine for the moment – What I want is for Jazmine to know is that she is the product of many strong, capable , creative people – she is the recipient of the bounty of their , blood, sweat and tears – and she has the opportunity to learn from their mistakes as well as use their successes as a blueprint for her own walk on earth.

I would like her to know that she is the daughter of many tribes. That in her veins, runs the blood of slaves, queens, artists, midwives, healers, teachers, philosophers and ministers. And these spiritually walk with her every day – I want her to know that she is never alone – ever. She is always loved, she is always seen, always cared for. She has centuries of energy at her disposal and at her beck and call – she need only close her eyes and pray.

I want her to know that she is the beloved daughter of a loving God. That our faith commands her to love and provides her with the story of Jesus to show her how to do this. She has the stories of our Saints who each in their humanity also provides lessons to her on how to walk with God’s Grace and how to shine that light to blaze a part for others.

I want her to know that she is a member a loving family who celebrates her every success and is willing to support her should she feel that she has failed. As her ancestors and her God support her in the realm of Spirit, her family – all of us support her on the earthly plane. Ever ready to comfort, advise and guide as she needs.

I want her to know that she never has to feel that she has do so this life alone – and that I do not perceive this as weakness – but a strength she has that other young women might lack. I want her to glory in her Goddess nature and to enjoy her body as a young girl and one day as a grown woman – I want her to treat that body with care – because it is not her own, that inside her today, she carries all of the egg cells she will ever have, and so the next generation of her people sleep now inside her and are dependent upon her to make decisions to ensure their safety – even before they are conceived!

I want her to know that when she chooses, one day she will be blessed with a life partner and children of her own. And there again, her life will not be her own. She gifts will come from putting the needs of her family first as her own needs were prioritized by adults in her own childhood. She and her partner will work together toward providing and nurturing her children and in her body memory will be the memory of the love of her family – which will flow automatically from her to the heads and hearts of her children.

I want her to feel the strength that comes from knowing that she is a part of a wonderful whole – a member of her of her community, her country and her planet. And I would like her to feel the solid success of being a respected member of her community. I would like her to know intimately all of her gifts and talents and to know that although she is an accomplished person – it is her responsibility to use her gifts in the services of all. How can her art heal, teach, aid and support the enrichment and uplift of others? I want her to feel confident that in following her bliss, she will have the exact amount of monetary success to meet her needs and that of her family. And I would like her to be unafraid to pursue her goals, and not settle – never settle.

I would like my granddaughter to feel the peace I am now experiencing, the relief of letting go of the uncertainly of youth and embracing a mature self-esteem. The solid joy of knowing who she is and what she feels and needs. I would like her to mature gracefully and without fear – enjoying all of the many blessings being a woman brings.

I would like her to know that there is nothing stronger and noting more beautiful than a happy woman – and nothing more amazing than being alive, and that she is one with all life. I would like her to know that her beautiful life has been a glorious work of art – begun before she was born and one which will continue to live on one day in the smile of her own grandchild!

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