Being triggered is a painful thing. A present day event shoots you to a moment in the past. A moment where one was helpless, full of pain , feeling small and abandoned. The challenge is remembering that the past is in the past and that now in the present – I am whole brave free […]
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Beyonce’, the Super Bowl and the Revolution
Sometimes I fear That my people are so desperate ,so desiring for opportunities for personal and racial pride, That we reach out for just about anything… I pray that we understand that of all things to seek this in the paid performance of an entertainer is a disrespect of our heritage and our collective struggle […]
How some hold injury, and some pass it on.
We are all good – born perfect and then we are subject to our society and time , some manage to find a way to function , still not who they were meant to be ,but able to limp through an exsistance… Others roar in pain and take many lives with them , breaking minds […]
Let justice be done…
I think that it’s important for those who have been victimized to speak out on what happened ! Not in some weak and angry effort to shame the perpetrator. Perpetrators (sociopaths) are not capable of healthy shame in any case. However , getting away with their behavior emboldens them, fuels their illness and insures that […]
Passing the buck…..
There is a great deal of cheering going on that Bill Cosby has had his honorary degree taken from him . I am a survivor of sexual emotional and physical abuse, and I don’t cheer this . I cheer the carrying forth of Justice , which means that this man was tried and found guilty […]
Killing Cuts
Sometimes beign a woman means being one who faces a heartstopping series of attacks on a daily basis. From the direct threat of physical harm from men – harresement of the street – to being lied to by men who claim to love you – to being stalked by trolls on facebook, its relentless, exhausting, […]
Day 1
Day #1 36 years ago tonight , I was a 19-year-old girl who earlier that day gave birth to twin baby boys . They were 7 pounds 3 ounces and 6 pounds 10 ounces and perfect in every way . They were 26 mins apart . They were born vaginally and without medications , and […]
Reggie’s Momma
Earlier I encountered an African American mother and her small son aged 4. The boy was chattering excitedly , talking a mile a minute and pulling his mothers arm as they walked. The mother body language was tired, she appeared to be looking through her child as he fought to get her gaze and her […]